Awakening From Your Anger

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  • Feedback on my Books, Blowing Out the Darkness.

    Blowing Out the Darkness

    I have continued to promote my books as I still want to have an impact, and I believe what I have written is important.

    My publisher, Ewings Publishing, suggested I hire some professional reviewers who would provide independent objective assessment of my writings. Attached are these assessments.

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    Feedback on Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage. (Metairie, LA: The Ewings Publishing LLC, 2023), https://davidmacquarriebooks.com

    Blowing Out the Darkness

    The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage

    by Dave MacQuarrie

    “A masterful blend of practical tools and philosophical insights, “Blowing out the Darkness” delivers a new, innovative route for navigation of all dark emotional realms. In creating this book, Dr. Dave MacQuarrie, MD PhD, has constructed through this book a cast iron guide that doesn’t let one single lapse occur in addressing the pragmatic dimensions of ’emotional regulation while pushing through to the very bedrock of emotional well-being laid by philosophy.’ His wedding of the cognitive and emotional processes is unparalleled, giving the reader a holistic framework that strengthens comprehension and application. This is a must-have volume for anyone who wants to navigate and transform their emotional landscape effectively.”

    Dr. Emily Roberts, Clinical Psychologist

    “This is a game-changer for both therapists and clients. With a focus on authentic personal growth and societal impact, this book offers timely insight for transformative exchanges that will resonate across the world today. Dave MacQuarrie, MD, PhD, gives practitioners tools and viewpoints directed at the enrichment of individual well-being and, therefore, positive social change—making it a must-have volume for any serious person who cares about emotional health and personal development.”

    John Matthews, Therapist

    “Blowing Out the Darkness” is a resource, for anyone seeking to navigate their journey. The book takes an approach to exploring and managing emotions like anger and rage offering solutions along with a deep dive into the theoretical aspects of emotional processes. MacQuarrie guides readers in acquiring the emotional tools for transforming and achieving effective emotional regulation and personal development. This blend of applications and insightful perspectives makes the book engaging not only for therapists and their clients but also for anyone interested, in emotional wellness.”

    Sarah Wilson, Life Coach

    “Blowing Out the Darkness” is a must in the field of mental health. Dave MacQuarrie has particularly nailed the integration of emotional and rational bits in therapy, which has proven very  effective for long-term healing. This is a rather unique, all-rounded approach to combining practical tools with deep philosophical insight. Possible to equip therapists and clientsalike with the right skills toward emotional well-being and personal growth that could last. That should make this very necessary in therapeutic practices.”

    Dr. Karen Brown, Psychiatrist

    “Enlightening and practical, ‘Blowing Out the Darkness’ lays the groundwork for managing one’s emotions in a way that is conducive to the betterment of society. This wonderful book should be read by all who want to improve their emotional well-being and give back some of that to society. Dave MacQuarrie shares his insights, provides actionable strategies, and supports them with powerful examples—a marvelous combination that secures this work for a wide, eager audience.”

    Michael Thompson, Social Worker

    “Blowing Out the Darkness” by Dave MacQuarrie is such an innovative and far-reaching vision of emotional management, skillfully wedding practical strategies with profound insights it makes the most complex emotional concepts anytime relevant and digestible to apply. His analysis is very captivating to the reader because he provides a comprehensive framework for emotional well-being in regards to investigating society’s problems and personal growth. The impact of MacQuarrie’s work does not remain limited to individual emotional challenges but further spreads their occurrence across society. As such, this book becomes a very important source for meaningful personal and social change.”

    Laura Green, Emotional Wellness

    “‘Blowing Out the Darkness’ gives insight into the human emotional system in great depth. The practical use of his theories by Dave MacQuarrie is exceptionally valuable to both professionals and individuals alike. With a thorough explanation of the techniques of emotional management, this book is endowed by what users need to indeed really be abreast of their emotions. The insights are very vital to MacQuarrie, and requisite for every human being desiring to improve in aspects of emotional intelligence and real personal growth.”

    Dr. Steven Harris, Neuroscientist

    “’Blowing Out the Darkness’ by Dave MacQuarrie is an insightful book in every sense of the term, as it seeks to challenge the conventional approaches to emotional health. He gives effective tools and quite a deep, existentially profound setting of philosophical perspective that is very transformative. He provides a balanced approach to both the emotional and rational aspects of treatment, rendering an all-rounded framework for understanding and managing feelings such as anger and rage. The deep exploration in the book is not just another prescriptive guide to the human emotional system. It is rich in furnishing one with many skills to achieve ongoing emotional well-being and growth. ‘Blowing Out the Darkness’ is packed with value both for professionals in the field and anyone seeking ways to enhance emotional wellness.” 

    Rachel Adams, Counselor

    “Dave MacQuarrie has constructed in ‘Blowing Out the Darkness’ a powerful resource for the management of emotional life issues. His emphasis on authenticity and change in society differentiates the book from others in this field. MacQuarrie’s treatment of these highly individualistic emotional challenges also opens onto the effect of such in society as a whole. This exhaustive guide embodies both practical tools and deep insights, making it a very necessary read for any conscientious person concerned about personal growth and positive societal transformation.”

    James Lee, Behavioral Therapist

    “Blowing Out the Darkness” is an enlightening read, replete with practical skills for emotional management. At the same time, what stood out for me was how Dave MacQuarrie could interweave subjective experience with objective understanding. Here is a volume that gives readers tools to effectively manage their emotional landscape. His approach is both insightful and pragmatic; therefore, this book is a must-read for all those interested in improving their emotional well-being and personal growth.”

    Jessica Turner, Educator

  • Dave’s Books, amongst Other Stuff

    For direct enquiry of Dave: [email protected]
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    I’ve obviously been neglecting this blog, and yet I’ve been busy. I am currently doing a Master of Arts in Theological Studies with the local Vancouver School of Theology, an affiliate of the University of British Columbia. As if I need another university degree (my seventh)!

    However I use such processes to keep me accountable for my learning — if I were to audit courses, there is a good possibility that I would get lazy and not do the work that I want to do. So, in keeping with good habits, I set it up so that I am accountable.

    As part of it all, I am also re-editing and re-publishing my two books Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage and Acedia, the Darkness Within: and the darkness of Climate Change with The Ewing Publishing, Metaire, LA (the books will be available at www.theewingspublishing.com shortly) — flyers below. Below the flyers are the links for where to purchase the books.

    I’m also doing a talk on acedia for a local conference on Making Meaning in a Time of Media Polarization: “Acedia, the Issue behind Life Difficulties.” I’m planning on posting it here when complete.

    If you are interested in what I have to say, have a look at some to the old posts (all the information is likely still appropriate), especially my emotional (anger) management program. My thoughts on Climate Change remain the same — we are approaching disaster; I am unclear whether we as a species are capable of responding. However I am committed to remaining positive; my skill set is to assist others in dealing with life pain — that is where I put my effort at creating change.

    Here are the links for the books:

    Barnes & Noble – The B&N welcomes international customers to shop with them online at BN.com.

    Acedia, The Darkness Within

    Link:  https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/acedia-dave-macquarrie/1143228571?ean=9798886407310

    Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage 

    Link: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/blowing-out-the-darkness-david-macquarrie/1120176627?ean=9798886409383

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    Amazon.ca (Canada)

    Acedia, The Darkness Within

    Link: https://www.amazon.ca/Acedia-Darkness-Within-Dave-MacQuarrie/dp/B0BYTPD5RH/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1683042091&sr=1-1

    Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage

    Link: Blowing Out The Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage: MacQuarrie, Dave: 9798886409383: Books – Amazon.ca

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    Amazon.com (USA)

    Acedia, The Darkness Within

    Link:  https://www.amazon.com/Acedia-Darkness-Within-Dave-MacQuarrie/dp/B0BYTPD5RH/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1683042261&sr=8-1

    Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage

    Link: https://www.amazon.com/Blowing-Out-Darkness-Management-Especially/dp/B0BZGXY3G5/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1683042205&sr=8-1

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    ISBN Numbers: 

    Acedia, The Darkness Within

    Paperback: 9798886407310 

    Hardback: 979-8886407327 

    Blowing Out the Darkness: The Management of Emotional Life Issues, Especially Anger and Rage

    Paperback: 979-8886409383

    Hardback: 979-8886409390 

  • Such A world

    It has been a while since I added a post to this blog. My absence was partly due to busyness with other projects, yet mainly it was that I had run out of comments to make. I am much more interested in action than I am in verbage.

    Much of this is because I have almost no hope that humanity will shift to greater maturity, such being needed for us to respond truly to the nature of global warming and all its complexity. Yet I am also deeply aware of the immense complexity of our species (especially as noted below), and I am open to be surprised that we will turn the situation around such that we survive.

    Still, we have unfortunately delayed our response to the point where our world will change in significant ways, and likely the next hundred or so years will be difficult. At my current age of 78, I will not be around to experience most of these changes, and I am deeply saddened that they will be imposed upon my children and grand-children. Yet such are the struggles that will help them mature as human beings, in whatever ways are appropriate for them.

    My basic mission statement continues to be “to encourage healthy emotional systems.” I remain limited in that I do not do well with long-term commitments to systems that show little change over time (my hermit nature), yet I deeply want to assist those who have ongoing pain (my poustinik nature), especially those who demonstrate their commitment to do the work of change. Unfortunately, most people I have worked with simply want to get out of pain, a short-term response (which I will comment upon in another post), and although I sometimes work with them, it is not usually very satisfying to me. I much prefer to work with those who want deep resolution of their life issues, the mommy-daddy issues of childhood residue and the broader issues of human maturity.

    So I have decided to renew my investment in this blog, and will post intermittently, mainly presenting links I find fascinating or reflective of significant social issues, such as below.

    Collapse and Renewal

    A fascinating description of our world — be sure to read the entire post (the initial part is rather discouraging). The complexity described is what has prompted me to re-engage with this blog.

    Positives

    And it seems as if major political powers are paying attention to withdrawal from fossil fuels (I emphasize “seems” in that I have little trust in political hype):

    HUGE VICTORY! People power defeats proposed GNL Quebec gas plant, 20210721
    Greenland suspends oil exploration, says it takes ‘climate change seriously’, 20210716
    Greenpeace Africa responds to the cancellation of oil blocks in Salonga National Park, urging similar decisions to be taken in Virunga and the rest of the Cuvette Centrale threatened by oil blocks, 20210722

    Difficulties

    Almost certainly you the reader of this blog has heard commentary on the latest IPCC Climate Report, one example being:

    Climate report shows world pushed to the brink by fossil fuels, 20210819

    I am also aware of how difficult it is to work with governments and other agencies of power. In particular, a small group of my collogues (my busyness alluded to above) have been attempting to get the British Columbia provincial government to take a deeper more comprehensive look at the Senior Care system, without much success. The current process seems to be interested parties submit proposals to the government, these proposals being politely received, and then discussed behind closed doors with minimal (if any) opportunity for collaboration and dialogue. This is not democracy as I understand it.

    A similar situation seems to be occurring with the Vancouver Police Board regarding police street checks (another interest of mine from working in the Downtown Eastside):

    Down the Rabbit Hole of Police Governance: The Saga of BCCLA’s Street Checks Complaint, 20210820

    It is such a complex world and I have no idea as to how to begin the unraveling associated with such rabbit holes. The best alternative I have found continues to be:

    • to function from “high intention (do my best); low attachment (let go of outcome,” and
    • to enjoy the immense beauty and creativity of our world.

  • Climate Truth

    PostTruth2This post presents a number of the links I have recently encountered, articles I think are important in speaking truth to what I perceive. And as usual, I am hesitant to post them — it is so easy to be overloaded with too much information these days.

    I find also that the climate conversations are evolving. I attended a webinar a few nights ago by Smart Politics (https://www.joinsmart.org/) — overall I was impressed. It is American, based mainly in California (I think), and presented a good process for engaging, followed by a good discussion — certainly I would recommend to anyone in the States. It is different from yet similar to the process I will be leading with the Suzuki Elders at the end of this month (Climate Change Conversations: How To Have Them Without Everyone Walking Out Of The Room, Vancouver, 20190228).

    On the positive side —

    The Transformative Power of Climate Truth (20190204)

    An excellent summary of the power of speaking the truth, especially in the nature of climate disruption. As readers of this blog will know, I am an advocate of The Climate Mobilization; momentum for this organization and its partners is evolving.

    Ocasio-Cortez’s Green New Deal Is a Product of Youth Uprising (20190208)

    The need for major overhaul of the political situation is being recognized. Perhaps it is the beginning of transformation of capitalism and neoliberalism. Perhaps. Will we do so in time to avert disaster?

    On the other side —

    When Europeans Colonized the Americas, They Killed So Many That the Earth’s Climate Cooled (20190203)

    A fascinating interplay between colonialism and global warming. Sad.

    There’s a Big Hole in the World’s Most Important Glacier. Yes, It’s a Problem. (20190205)

    As usual, things are worse than we thought.

    The World Is on the Brink of Widespread Water Wars (20190211)

    Another way in which things are worse. We are so close to collapse. As noted above, will we create a new cultural process in time to make a difference?

    Plummeting insect numbers ‘threaten collapse of nature’ (20190211)

    Yet another. What else can I say?

    Predominantly neutral (is anything neutral in this theme?) —

    How the greenwashing campaign works (20190212)

    How can we measure the climate risk of methane gas emissions- (20190212)

    What the methane industry doesn’t want you—or lawmakers—to know (20190212)

    This series of articles on methane, the principle component of natural gas, speaks to the complexity of assessing data as well as the interpretation of data, some of which is almost certainly disinformation.

  • Governance in a Mature Society, Part 1

    This is our home! We must clean house.
    This is our home! We must clean house.

    The word govern comes from the Latin gubernare (to direct or guide) and from the Greek kybernan (to steer or pilot a ship). Essentially it means to rule with authority; in democracy, that authority is assigned by the people. Authority itself is power to make decisions and to give orders so as to accomplish a task; it can be delegated, but the delegator is usually still accountable for the accomplishment of the task.

    Thus, to govern refers to having power over power, the concept I have been referring to in the last few posts, The Nature of Power. Quite frankly, in the shift to civilization over the past 10,000 years, we have not done very well. Power has controlled us, rather than we having control over power.

    We must learn to transform ourselves.

    Given we are at the edge of the ending of our current civilization, if not the ending of ourselves as a species, this must change. We must shift from the dominator mode of power to that of a global embrace of personal power. We must learn to value the personal growth of individuals such that they advance in wisdom (phronesis, as well as the supplementary skills of sophia, discipline, hope and playfulness) — see Acedia and The Climate Lie, Part 1 for details.

    I say personal power because, although governance largely has to do with professional power, it is the deep transformation of individuals that allows them to be effective leaders. Over thirty years ago, John Scherer[1] introduced me to the Adaptive Skills, the skill set that allows leadership, the skill set that makes you who you are, the core that people “get” when they are with you. A mature society will value the development of these skills in all people, and when well developed, from whence will come leadership.

    In my dissertation (and subsequent book Acedia, pp. 200-205), I devoted a number of pages to the governance of a mature society. In re-reading these pages, I have changed little in my thoughts. I will therefore quote extensively from this source, adding some brief comments to update the text.

    Challenging growth

    As indicated in earlier posts, I suggest that in a mature culture, people would meet several times per week in small groups within their “villages” in order to discuss their own growth as well as the community issues of concern.

    . . . they would also mentor each other, challenging both themselves, and the systems within which they live. This would be the place where people cross-link with each other, providing the maturity necessary for the resolution of conflict; it would be the source of growth necessary for the priorities of the [culture]. Such meetings might potentially sound communistic, and subject to the “crab-box effect” of togetherness, but when skillfully led, I know of no richer experience for human interaction — they are the platforms where people develop the skills of authentic relating. When skillfully led, such meetings can be places of immense playfulness and wisdom [as well as the development of leadership skills].

    To be continued.

    [1]John J. Scherer, The 1980 Annual Handbook for Group Facilitators, pp. 152-156.