Category: Questions Answered

This is the third of four posts on the nature and management of shoulds. From Ed Friedman I also learned of the incredible importance of emotional triangles — the laws of relationships; this information changed my life. Essentially, shoulds invest energy in the third limb of the triangle, an investment that is generally dysfunctional (unless…

This is the second of four posts on the nature and management of shoulds. Ed Friedman (as noted in the previous post, Ed was one of my primary mentors) used to tell a story about how to catch crabs in the ocean; he claimed it was true, although I have never been able to verify…

A few days ago, I received a request to write about the nature of the word should, must and have to. So . . . I imagine that this is a very important topic for many people. However, it is such a huge topic that I will split my posting into several, so as to…