Awakening From Your Anger

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  • What Limits Me (Part 1 of 3)

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    Hi to all. A question to you, the reader. What limits you in your ability to make changes in your life, or your world? I want to take the next few postings to explore what I am attempting to do here, with these postings. I strongly believe that we need a more mature culture (an…

  • Off-Shore Fracking

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    Hi folks. It is my intention to engage in the issues of climate change, especially those related to the emotional maturity of our culture. One of my struggles in retirement has been that of what do I do with my skills, my proficiencies gained over 25 years of being a therapist. We are so badly…

  • Sometimes I hate technology

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    I awoke in the middle of last night with the thought that I hate technology, and to a certain extent that is true. In my recent attempts to take my work to a broader domain, I recognize how much I am hidden behind layers and layers of equipment that I do not easily understand. Not…

  • Physicians Respond To Gun Control

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    Finally, the American Medical Association has chosen to lobby on behalf of gun research and gun control. As a physician myself (albeit Canadian), I am almost ashamed that they have not done so prior to this. I know from personal experience that most physicians are intelligent, compassionate and interested in research; and they are often…

  • Sloppy Language, Part 2

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    To recap, this is my second post on sloppy language. Bottom line: if you will be meticulous with your language for six months, you will change your life, for the better. But remember: The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable. Why?: “Why?” can be a very important question; the…

  • Sloppy Thinking, Part 1

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    Thinking about the nature of shoulds has prompted me to write also about what I call sloppy language. I have long maintained that if an individual will give meticulous attention to his or her language for six months, that individual will dramatically change his or her life for the better. By meticulous attention, I mean…

  • “You should,” Part 4 (Management)

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    This is the fourth of four posts on the nature and management of shoulds. (Note: because Facebook does not easily allow paragraph markers, I am choosing to begin my paragraphs with … to make it easier to read — at least it is easy for me!) To recap. Shoulds are the rules of social boundaries.…

  • “You should,” Part 3 (Emotional Triangles)

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    This is the third of four posts on the nature and management of shoulds. From Ed Friedman I also learned of the incredible importance of emotional triangles — the laws of relationships; this information changed my life. Essentially, shoulds invest energy in the third limb of the triangle, an investment that is generally dysfunctional (unless…

  • “You should,” Part 2 (The Crab Trap)

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    This is the second of four posts on the nature and management of shoulds. Ed Friedman (as noted in the previous post, Ed was one of my primary mentors) used to tell a story about how to catch crabs in the ocean; he claimed it was true, although I have never been able to verify…

  • “You should,” Part 1

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    A few days ago, I received a request to write about the nature of the word should, must and have to. So . . . I imagine that this is a very important topic for many people. However, it is such a huge topic that I will split my posting into several, so as to…