Tag: anger management

Comment: Child discipline is fraught with ‘shoulds,’ and thus a place of major difficulty. Child discipline is more accurately discipline of the parent so as to provide consistency and nurturing. MacQuarrie Email Program #29 — Responding To Children I chose this topic as part of the program because children are a part of the lives…

Comment: In some fashion, we all want intimacy, but we are unwilling to risk, and thus we shift to psychological games with predictable negative outcomes. “Here we go again!” Sad. MacQuarrie Email Program #28 — Intimacy and Relationship A friend of mine, a cultural anthropologist, asked approximately 40,000 people how they wanted to live their…

Comment: Very few people like conflict — however it is a major underlying feature of relationship. For trust to build, conflict needs resolution. MacQuarrie Email Program #27 — Conflict and Resolving Difficulties The task for this email is to explore how you handle difficulties. Please reflect on the following: The resolution of difficulties is a…

Comment: Having established safety for all, the next most important aspect is to distinguish whether the issue is me, or my relationship with others. And then get on with resolving the issues. MacQuarrie Email Program #26 — The Message of Your Anger In the previous emails, I dealt with Safety and Energy. Here we will…

Comment: I cannot emphasize enough — the primary issue of emotional management is Safety! Everyone must be safe, and idealy everyone must feel safe (Security). MacQuarrie Email Program #25 — Managing Yourself While Angry In the next two emails, I am going to expand upon the concepts developed in Emails #07 and #08, the process…

Comment: We are getting close to the end of the series; I hope you are gaining benefit from it. MacQuarrie Email Review #03 — The Third Set of Emails From my perspective, the past eight emails (#17-#24) have included important topics: blocks to awareness, and why we avoid knowing and living values (rather than beliefs)…

Comment: Although I note this email as perhaps the most important of the series, it is only possible to utilize this email effectively, especially long-term, if the rest of the program is developed. MacQuarrie Email Program #24 — Forgiveness (Letting Go) Welcome. This email is perhaps the most important email of the entire series —…

Comment: Herein I describe with I consider to be the primary skills of self-care, those skills that keep me stable and able to be (relatively) relaxed with what life offers. Self-care requires time, but essentially if I do not take care of myself, I am not able to gift to others. Nor will anyone else…

Comment: The skills suggested in this email are subtle and if developed, they are very powerful as a means of sorting how to respond to life. MacQuarrie Email Program #22 — Knowing Your Own Truths When I first introduced the Blowing Out process (Email #07), I alluded to the Action Model, a second way of…

Comment: If you can truly utilize the information of this email, you will have come a long way in the management of any emotional issues, especially those of anger. MacQuarrie Email Program #21 — Perspective This email is about how you create your reality, and some options to do life differently. First task, look at…